Posts tagged therapy
How To Get Into Journaling If You Don't Know Where To Start

I recently watched a YouTube video by Matt D’avella about journaling for 30 days straight. While I’m always the first to encourage someone to journal as much as they can, there were a few points he made and approaches he took in his challenge that I didn’t really agree with. For one, he made journaling sound like exercise in the sense that you have to do it every single day to get the results you want otherwise you’re wasting your time. He also limited his journaling to only 10 minutes in order to be able to do it every day and I think that defeats the entire purpose of the practice. For today’s post I wanted to somewhat counteract the points he made while also offering some advice to those who want to start journaling regularly, but don’t really know where to start or feel too intimidated by the process.

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Why It's Okay To Change Your Mind

A really difficult aspect of growing up for me is realizing that I am allowed (even encouraged) to change my mind. Making big decisions is already hard for me, so to then change my mind about them leaves me feeling uncomfortable and sometimes even embarrassed. As someone who copes with stressful situations by placating to others, being judged for my choices is what I dread the most about an adult life, yet know that it’s unavoidable. However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to accept (kind of) that no matter what I do I will be judged by someone, whether negatively or positively. For today’s post I wanted to discuss why changing your mind and expressing your difference from others is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your personal growth.

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4 Habits I Wish I Maintained

Habits are a tricky thing. I often write about habits I want to break, but rarely look back at those that were once working for me and wish I’d never stopped doing. Habits for me are more a ritual than anything else—they give my life structure and provide fulfillment in mundane actions. I work well with a set routine and when I lose control of that and stop doing things that make me feel confident and capable, I lose a little bit of myself as well. Below are 4 habits that create the ultimate life I want to live and I wish I maintained throughout the past few years.

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Why You Need To Have A Good Cry From Time To Time

This year has been a rollercoaster of emotions for me and I’m not embarrassed to admit it. From intensive therapy sessions to long, serious conversations with my partner—crying has been an important and prominent part of the year for me. I have always been taught (as I’m sure most women have been) that crying signifies weakness and to do it in public is the worst thing you can do if you want people to take your seriously. So, for most of my life, I have tried my hardest to hold back my tears and have been quite successful at it up until this year when I began letting myself feel all these normal, human emotions openly.

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When You Just Can't Get Out Of Bed

I am a simple woman. I like my bed, I like good food, and sometimes, I like self-pity even more. Last week I didn't post anything on the blog because, well, I just couldn't get out of bed. I wasn't sick, not physically at least, but I also didn't feel good. I had come off of the high of an extremely productive week prior and as soon as the sunlight of Monday July 30th peaked its way in through my bedroom window, all of that motivation was gone. I wasn't the person I wanted to be and it felt like I was a walking, talking, shell of a human being. This might be a bit dramatic, but I'll bet money that others have felt or are currently feeling this exact way.

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A Little Life Update

The last few weeks have felt like an emotional rollercoaster ride, but I desperately want to get back into a steady blogging routine. I took some time off after rebranding and redesigning my website to focus entirely on my personal writing projects - a novel, short stories, and some creative non-fiction - but the lack of consistent blogging weighed heavily on me. Last week I put out a post about productivity and this sudden urge to blog more is due to the struggle I was having with my inability to balance work and life successfully. So, for today's post I'm going to give you a little life update, let you know where I'm at physically and emotionally, and where I hope to be on the coming months. 

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On How To Be Happy (& Other Impossible Questions To Answer)

How does one become happy? Is it with things? With people? With adventure? This is a question that has plagued my mind since I was old enough to realize that unhappiness was constantly lurking behind corners, ready to pounce the second you forgot that decisions have consequences. This summer has become a big turning point for me in figuring out the kind of person I am and what I want out of life, however, that's not to say that it will undoubtedly lead to happiness.

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My Writing Journey #8: Commitment To The Process

My goal to finish the first draft of my novel by the end of the summer is 5000 words a week, and while I managed to reach that goal last week, this week I've been finding it incredibly difficult. At first I thought it was just a lack of motivation; that my priorities weren't in order and I needed to give myself an extra push to get going. But as I thought about it more and discussed it with my therapist in this week's session, I realized that the motivation to write this novel is there. It's been there since the beginning and it's been the main thing that's helped me hold onto the idea for so long.

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Why I Go To Therapy & What I Get Out Of It

Therapy was something I wanted to experience for years before finally taking the initiative to make it happen. Suffering through bouts of anxiety ever since starting university and dealing with it on my own was becoming more difficult. There was only so much I could discuss within the pages of my journal before I needed some helpful tools to achieving the results I wanted rather than just pouring out my thoughts in catharsis. It's been a month since I started going to therapy, and I couldn't be happier, especially knowing that I finally took the steps I needed in order to help myself through trying times. 

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