Posts tagged self-improvement
Why It's Important To (Sometimes) Be Uncomfortable

I’ve always been someone that avoids discomfort at all costs. I’ve just never really understood the point of putting yourself in a scenario where you feel less than great only to then have to think back to it and cringe at something you might have said or done. However, after having spent the past year in a foreign country (one that I had never visited before I moved there) I’ve learned a few lessons about why it’s okay, and sometimes necessary, to put yourself in uncomfortable situations.

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How To Get Things Done When Your Environment Isn’t Conducive To Productivity

Moving back in with your parents during a time of significant change isn’t easy. There are a lot of moving pieces in play that can really affect the way you live your life and maintain a level of productivity that makes you feel successful and in control. Seeing as I’ve recently moved back home after almost a year of living abroad, I thought I would share some insight into how I’m attempting to reach my goals in a less-than-ideal environment. From home renovations to old familial habits rearing their heads—we all might need a bit of help when it comes to navigating stressful spaces and maintaining productivity.

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4 Ways To Inspire Yourself

I’ve always had a hard time inspiring myself. Often, I’ll look to others who seem much more successful than I am for some secret that I just can’t tap into. Answers are more satisfying than the journey of discovering them, which can lead me (and, I’m sure others) to feeling a bit lost when the inspiration and motivation isn’t quite there to achieve your goals. For today’s post I wanted to offer a few ways that you can inspire yourself so that you don’t always have to turn to others for the necessary affirmation of your journey.

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Why It's Okay To Change Your Mind

A really difficult aspect of growing up for me is realizing that I am allowed (even encouraged) to change my mind. Making big decisions is already hard for me, so to then change my mind about them leaves me feeling uncomfortable and sometimes even embarrassed. As someone who copes with stressful situations by placating to others, being judged for my choices is what I dread the most about an adult life, yet know that it’s unavoidable. However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to accept (kind of) that no matter what I do I will be judged by someone, whether negatively or positively. For today’s post I wanted to discuss why changing your mind and expressing your difference from others is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your personal growth.

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5 Ways I Want To End My Day

I recently published a post about the things I want to do to start my day, but there are also new habits I want to form when it comes to ending my day. After a day of work I usually just want to sit on the couch and catch up on some YouTube videos or watch a new Netflix series, but since I spend my work day looking at a screen, I want to fill up that evening time with other activities that’ll get me ready for a peaceful sleep. Some of these habits are going to take time to be in regular practice, but I find that even setting up the intention is enough to begin switching the way you approach certain aspects of your life.

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4 Habits I Wish I Maintained

Habits are a tricky thing. I often write about habits I want to break, but rarely look back at those that were once working for me and wish I’d never stopped doing. Habits for me are more a ritual than anything else—they give my life structure and provide fulfillment in mundane actions. I work well with a set routine and when I lose control of that and stop doing things that make me feel confident and capable, I lose a little bit of myself as well. Below are 4 habits that create the ultimate life I want to live and I wish I maintained throughout the past few years.

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Why It's Important To Admit When You're Wrong

Admitting you’re wrong is never easy to do. There are usually stakes involved and no one wants to come out and say that what they once thought was right is no longer how they feel. There is a sense of pride that goes along with it, which can make many people (myself included) feel embarrassed to allow the truth to seep out through the cracks of an appearance or lie that we might have been telling ourselves. Today I wanted to talk a bit about why I think it’s important to admit when you’re wrong and how to transform those moments of regret and embarrassment into strong lessons that you can take into your future.

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How To Start Committing To Yourself

2018 and 2019 have been years where I learned a lot about myself—somethings good, some bad. The most prevalent thing that seems to have always come up through various therapy sessions, journal entries, and conversations with friends or family is that I have a hard time committing to myself. I have no problem doing it for others (I’ve been in a 6 year relationship that’s still going strong) or for someone else’s company (I worked in a big corporation for 3 years and did really well), but when it comes to me and my needs I tend to leave those by the wayside.

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5 Things I Want To Improve In My Daily Life

I’ve always strived for self-improvement, no matter how uncomfortable or earth-shattering the experience might be. Sure, I spent many years huddled within the comfortable shell my childhood experiences created for me, but the older I get the more I realize how important it is to recognize my faults and face them head on. The faults I see in myself might not be perceived that way by others—I’m slowly learning that the only opinion about my happiness and self-worth that matters is my own. Every day is a journey to enlightenment and self-acceptance, so I thought I would write a post all about the things I want to improve on in my daily life in order to help transform myself into the well-rounded person I hope to one day be.

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5 Ways To Start Fresh

It seems like I’m always starting fresh this time of the year. There’s something about April that brings out the urge to switch things up and move on to something new, whether that be leaving a job, preparing to move to a different country, starting therapy, or potentially starting a new job. As someone who gets very nervous about change of any kind, this time of the year allows me to revel in it with a little less fear than I’m used to, making the prospect of starting fresh enticing and exhilarating.

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8 Things I Learned In 2018

2018 was a year of learning for me—learning about myself and learning about others around me. It was the first year of my life that I truly felt I was making an effort to be happy, to uncover my purpose, and really go after what I wanted. Below are a few of the main things I learned throughout the last 12 months and how these lessons change my overall perspective and helped me grow.

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My Goals For 2019

This year has been one of the most eventful years of my life. I’ve gone through many physical and emotional changes as well as learning what I like and where I want to be in the years to come. In this post I wanted to talk about a few of my 2019 goals as a way to document my current aspirations so that I can look back if I ever feel unmotivated or lost with my direction as the months progress.

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Why You Need To Have A Good Cry From Time To Time

This year has been a rollercoaster of emotions for me and I’m not embarrassed to admit it. From intensive therapy sessions to long, serious conversations with my partner—crying has been an important and prominent part of the year for me. I have always been taught (as I’m sure most women have been) that crying signifies weakness and to do it in public is the worst thing you can do if you want people to take your seriously. So, for most of my life, I have tried my hardest to hold back my tears and have been quite successful at it up until this year when I began letting myself feel all these normal, human emotions openly.

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Let's Talk About Change...

So…it’s been a while since I’ve blogged and a lot has changed in that time. As I’ve been planning for in the last few months, I’ve finally moved to London and the experience has been scary, exciting, exhilarating, and nerve-wracking all at the same time. It’s hard to fully grasp what I mean until you have to go through it yourself, which is what I had been struggling with up until the end of September when it was time to board a plane (alone, for the first time) and move myself to a different country that I had never been to before.

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A Little Life Update

So, this month has been kind of a bust. From completely changing the direction of the book I'm working on to preparing for my big move to England next month, I haven't really been feeling like myself and that has shown in my lack of an online presence. I've barely been able to do anything other than work and write, and even those have been done with the little bit of enthusiasm I have left.

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What I Wish I Knew In My Early 20s

Since starting therapy I've been forced to spend a bit more of my time reflecting on my habits and why I tend to do the things that I inexplicably do. For today's post I wanted to share a few life lessons I've learned in the last couple of years as well as the last few months and discuss why I wish I knew them when I was in my early twenties. Life's a bitch, as they say, so I figure that these lessons might help make it a little less bitchy for someone else who might be struggling through certain situations. These are all concerns I'm still struggling with, but have come to understand that they aren't as dire as they once felt to be and I am slowly, but surely, working through them. 

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