Why I Don't Subscribe To The Wanderlust Mentality


Don’t get me wrong, I love a good vacation. There’s nothing more relaxing than sitting on a warm beach somewhere or traversing the streets of a country I’ve never been to before. However, the wanderlust mentality is something I see quite often online and I just can’t get on board with it. The idea of my main goals in life revolving around hopping on an airplane any time I can is so anxiety-inducing that I’m getting a bit nervous thinking about it right now. I am a homebody at heart. Home is where my creative juices flow and where I can truly be myself without judgement or discomfort. Travelling, on the other hand, can be fun, but I never think about it as a necessity to feel like I’m getting the most out of life, and neither should anyone else that has noticed this social FOMO pressure.


At the end of the day, not everyone has the money to constantly travel and there shouldn’t be any shame about that. It’s pretty expensive, both for the flight as well as anything you want to do once you’re at your destination. There are other things that I would sometimes rather spend my money on and travelling can often feel like such a huge cash dump. However, that’s not to say I don’t save up every few months for the opportunity when it feels right, but forcing myself to travel as much as I can isn’t at all appropriate for my bank account at the moment.


I am a naturally anxious person and even just the act of packing before a trip gets me frazzled. The thought of having to constantly do that is enough to completely deter me from travelling for years. I’ve recently been on three trips in the past month and a half and let me tell you, I’m happy to get a bit of a break. While I’m in London I’m trying to take advantage of the fact that I am so close to so many European countries, but the constant packing, early morning airport runs, and waiting in lines is taking a big toll on my mental health. The idea of running off whenever possible on a new adventure is not at all what I find enjoyable.


For many people, there are a lot of responsibilities that come along with running a sustainable and comfortable life, which makes it hard to constantly travel. This can be in the form of schooling, pet care, families, etc. There are so many obstacles that people often have to navigate in order to get the chance to travel somewhere new and I don’t think they should be made to feel like they aren’t living their ultimate life because of that.


I genuinely don’t see anything wrong with being happy exactly where you are. Many people have the luxury of being born and raised in awesome cities and spending as much time as you want in them shouldn’t be looked down upon. Of course, there are so many more wonderful cities around the world and seeing them would be fantastic, but the travel itch that so many Instagrammers and bloggers seem to be pushing these days is unrealistic and not relatable. Do what makes you happy and comfortable and don’t worry about what you should be doing. There are only so many hours in a day—spend them doing what you actually enjoy.