Admitting you’re wrong is never easy to do. There are usually stakes involved and no one wants to come out and say that what they once thought was right is no longer how they feel. There is a sense of pride that goes along with it, which can make many people (myself included) feel embarrassed to allow the truth to seep out through the cracks of an appearance or lie that we might have been telling ourselves. Today I wanted to talk a bit about why I think it’s important to admit when you’re wrong and how to transform those moments of regret and embarrassment into strong lessons that you can take into your future.
Admitting You’re Wrong To Yourself
The biggest lie I ever told myself is that I am an office person. That I can spend days, weeks, months, and even years behind a desk in someone else’s office, fulfilling someone else’s plan. It’s taken me a long time and many hiccups along the way to realize and accept that that just isn’t for me.
I often tend to fall into the complacency of comfort that comes along with a steady income and limited responsibility, but rarely do I feel complete or confident when I do. It is also easier to fit yourself into a box that others find more appropriate rather than taking the leap and distinguishing yourself from the heard—most of the time, it’s pretty darn scary to go against the grain of your family or social surroundings.
7 years and 6 jobs in drastically different fields later and the only one I can really say I feel comfortable and confident in is freelancing from home. It’s been hard to accept because that comes along with a lot of hardship and stress, but what job doesn’t? In the past few months, I left freelancing, started a more “traditional” office job and then came back to it. Quite the detour, I know, but it was necessary in order to really solidify it’s importance to me and my life.
Rather than dwelling on the fact that I may have wasted time that could have otherwise been put into my freelance writing business, I’m moving forward, happy that I realized what I like and what I don’t like before it’s 10 year’s later and I don’t have a solid plan for my future. This is why I think it’s important to dive head first into a mistake because you will come out of those rough waters stronger and much more knowledgeable about what is right for you, rather than what is right for others.
Admitting You’re Wrong To Others
This might be even harder to do than admitting you’re wrong to yourself because it means putting your trust and vulnerability in the hands of someone else. However, I think it’s incredibly important to be able to acknowledge when what you once believed is no longer true and give the respect of an apology or recognition to someone in your life that tried to help you come to that realization sooner.
My boyfriend always jokes that he loves to hear the words “you’re right” come out of my mouth, but I always allow myself to step back from my pride and say them when necessary. Even if it comes with a lot of teasing and flack for the next few minutes. Why? Because putting away your hubris and accepting that you aren’t perfect, nor will you ever be, is the best way to improve and grow into the person you ultimately want to be. It also helps your confidence to be able to say “I was wrong, you were right, and I didn’t listen to you” and still walk away feeling hopeful and ready to move forward.
Sure, you’ll probably have your teeth clenched and arms crossed when you say it at first, but with time and self-awareness it becomes much easier. I even find it freeing to be able to acknowledge that I don’t know everything and don’t have to, but still be a strong and capable woman in all aspects of my life.
How do you feel about admitting when you’re wrong?