I am very good at spending money, which is something that has plagued me for a while. I am also very good at curbing my incessant desire to shop when I feel glum, which has really helped my bank account throughout the years. Not surprisingly, I’ve found myself once again in a place where I’m beginning to feel a bit morose and in need of a pick-me-up and this is usually when I feel the itch to go out and buy a few new things for my wardrobe or unnecessary nik naks to give me that boost of dopamine we all so desperately crave. While I am not at all supporting the development of a shopping addiction, I wanted to put up a post today about why I genuinely think that sometimes you need to just treat yourself, even if that means spending a bit of extra money.
However, this mentality could just be an extension of my middle-class upbringing, or being raised by a boisterous Greek family that loved lavish meals on a weekly basis. Regardless, there are some days where I just need to find a piece of clothing that’s going to flatter my body and give me a bit of confidence that I may be lacking at the point in time. Or a new addition to my makeup collection so that I have a reason to get a bit dolled up in the mornings.
Whatever the reason, I’m beginning to realize that there is a significant lacking that contributes to it and, while spending money isn’t going to fill whatever hole that’s there, it can temporarily adjust the emotions attached to it.
So, let’s talk about why I think it’s important to treat yourself…sometimes.
This might just be in my own head, but I find that when I buy a new clothing item to add to my wardrobe or some home decor I become just the slightest bit more confident in the way I perceive my overall life. It’s easy for me to get bored with things, but I also love being in a routine, so after a while I tend to feel like I am trapped or just living the same day over and over again. I’ve noticed, though, that when I add something new into my life I show myself that I do have the ability to change the things that I might feel are unchangeable. Often this has to do with the way I perceive myself with regards to how others might view me based on what I wear—it’s easy for me to fall into a rut by wearing the same three things over and over again and losing my creativity in such a simple way as new outfit ideas.
This is especially prominent in with autumn and winter months because there’s only so much you can wear when it starts getting colder outside. So, whenever I find a new piece (and, I am very picky when it comes to the things I like) I feel my spirits lift knowing that I can push through whatever rut or mindset I might be stuck in at that moment in time. It also allows me to form the person I want to be without every having to say anything and, considering words are my job, it is a nice change from time to time.
A Momentary Escape
I am an incredibly anxious person so I often find myself stressing out about something new on a daily basis. Sometimes, the fastest and most satisfying way to escape my anxious thoughts is to just treat myself to an object or experience that feels right in the moment. This escape can be just the act of doing some window shopping or taking yourself out on a movie date just to relieve some stress and shut out the real world for a few hours. And, while it’s important to be mindful of your spending and have a budget in place (which I don’t always have), it’s just as important to let loose a little and give into that urge or desire if you feel like it will provide a bit of momentary happiness. There’s no shame in that.
Self-Care Is Self-Love
Something I’ve noticed about myself and my habits is that if I am trying really hard to save money or not spend for a certain period of time I tend to also forgo investing in any sort of self-care. I’ll avoid buying the right hair products for my curly hair or cleanser for my skin as a way to save a bit more and that does more harm than good when it comes to loving the skin I’m in. Whenever I don’t invest in the products that make me feel the best I tend to lose sight of what it means to be comfortable with myself and can quickly fall into a depressive state of not really being happy with my appearance. While this might be a shallow way to viewing it, the little things have a huge impact on me and can completely change my perception of myself and my confidence.
It Feels Good
At the end of the day, treating yourself just feels good. That’s why it’s called a treat. There’s no shame in wanting to make yourself feel good when it doesn’t affect anyone else and you should aim to do it more often. I’ve noticed that we can often be made to think that treating ourselves is a form of gluttony or indulgence that should be looked down upon; that we should aim instead to bury ourselves in hard work all the time in order to meet some sort of standard of success. I have never liked that way of thinking and whenever I fall victim to it I am the most unhappy I have ever been. I have been trying hard this year to let myself do things that feel good and also get rid of those that don’t. There’s no point making yourself suffer or feel guilty if you don’t have to and I think more people need to say that out loud.