Lately I've had to think a lot about what I want to do in my life and it's, unsurprisingly, a very scary thing to do. Your mind is left to wander and the endless amounts of possibilities can leave you feeling incapable of achieving any of them. It might seem logical to then start planning things out or following the path of someone you admire or aspire to be like. But, in the past years that I've attempted to do that it's never ended the way I wanted it to. I didn't miraculously discover my true life journey or become instantaneously happy. Instead I felt lost and confused about who I really was.
For this Self-Care Monday, I wanted to talk about how important it is to just let yourself live. Allow yourself the opportunities to try new things, even if you're scared, and make the mistakes necessary to discover who you are. I've never been someone to take risks, or even minute chances at changing my every day routine, but the older I get the more I realize how important that is for discovering your true self and what you want out of life. It's easy to let others with far stronger opinions than your own to dictate how you live, but the only person's happiness that should matter is your own. If you feel proud of what you are accomplishing, how you look, what you do, then no one should be afforded the power to take that away from you.
This has been a hard lesson to learn, but a necessary one. Don't submit yourself to living a life that doesn't feel right or good, but rather let yourself feel the discomfort of having tried various options until you find the one that fits. Only you can make yourself happy, so it's important to recognize the immense power you hold and to not give it away to anyone else, because no one knows what's good for you anymore than you do. Make mistakes, feel embarrassed, uncomfortable, insecure, just so that you can cross all those attempts off your list and notice when the right one comes along.
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