This year has been a rollercoaster of emotions for me and I’m not embarrassed to admit it. From intensive therapy sessions to long, serious conversations with my partner—crying has been an important and prominent part of the year for me. I have always been taught (as I’m sure most women have been) that crying signifies weakness and to do it in public is the worst thing you can do if you want people to take your seriously. So, for most of my life, I have tried my hardest to hold back my tears and have been quite successful at it up until this year when I began letting myself feel all these normal, human emotions openly.
For today’s post I wanted to talk about why I think it’s important and necessary to have a good cry from time to time and why I will no longer let myself feel ashamed for doing so.
Acknowledging And Validating Your Emotions
One important reason why crying is necessary is that it allows you to really acknowledge and validate the emotions you are feeling. Crying for me signifies that there has been a shift in my emotional well-being and that I should take the time to look into it and try to figure it out rather than pushing forward as though nothing is wrong. When I fall into the act of crying, for whatever reason, it shows me that my mind is trying to tell me something important about how certain aspects of my current situation are working for me.
We aren’t always willing to admit that somethings aren’t right for us and end up doing them anyway, so I use the urge to cry as a sign that I should re-evaluate whatever is going on in my life at that moment. It doesn’t mean you are overreacting or crazy; your emotions are valid in any form they decide to escape your body.
A Necessary Release
Have you ever hopped in the shower, felt the hot water cascade down your back, watched the bathroom cloud up with steam and suddenly felt like bursting out into a long, aggressive sob? This happens to me every so often and it’s something I’ve had to get used to and slowly accept as a necessary release against all the anxieties I’m prone to feeling throughout the day. I am an anxious person, there’s no denying that, and sometimes all those worries are too much for my body to handle and need to escape in the fastest, most instinctive way they can.
Because it’s so hard for me to cry in every day life, I tend to bask in the overflow of emotions when I’m in the shower and my tears can be masked by the running water with no one there to witness it. I would recommend that anyone who has difficulty crying should let themselves do it in the shower—it’s very cathartic.
Sharing Yourself With Others
The older I get the more I realize how important sharing yourself and your emotions with the people you love is. Nothing good will come out of hiding how you feel—you will only alienate others and make yourself feel misunderstood. While open and honest communication is the most effective way to express yourself to others, letting yourself cry in front of them is also a great way to show your vulnerability and create a different kind of bond. When they see that you are willing to be so open with them they will reciprocate and learn how to better communicate with you.
That being said, it’s also important to articulate what your tears mean so that they aren’t misinterpreted by the person you are crying in front of. Explain if they are out of sadness, happiness, or just a physical response your body is having to an overwhelming situation. Your family, friends, or partner will then be better able to understand where you are coming from and respond in the best way they can.