This is a weird and slightly morbid title for a blog post, I know. But hear me out! Happiness, for many of us (if not all), is the ultimate goal. It's an understandable one and something I also aspire to achieve. Our books and movies are littered with the idea, not to mention the countless motivational speakers, bloggers, or life coaches that claim to help you find your happiness and keep it forever. I've never really questioned this mindset (because, of course, you want to be happy) until I got older and realized that 'happiness' is not an object to attain, but rather a state of being to reach.
With this realization, it also became important to question how necessary and practical constant happiness actually is. Sure, anyone can claim that they are always happy and that they can teach you to also be this way, but is that something one would actually want? Yes, happiness goes hand in hand with a release of endorphins, so it feels great, but when I think about it, my biggest lessons were learned when I wasn't feeling my best. My greatest creations came from times in my life where I felt lonely, sullen, or deprived. And some of my best relationships were developed from experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions to really find balance.
The notion that happiness is not necessary all the time is important to acknowledge because often we are made to feel guilty or somehow insufficient when we are not. I know there are people out there who can relate to this so I thought I would compose a short list of why not being happy all the time can be a good thing rather than something to worry about or pity.
1) It helps you understand what truly brightens your mood
2) It teaches you to strive for it in a way that works for you
3) Life is too short to not experience all spectrums that it offers
4) It provides you with empathy for anyone going through a similar situation
5) It helps you discover who you are and not just who you think you should be
6) It offers great content for movies, novels, or even just your journal
What are your thoughts on happiness?