We're not born with body confidence, and yet we're made to feel like it's something we should already have. Despite being inundated with pictures, videos, 10 second ads, all focused on promoting certain body types, skin colours, and other trivial indicators of beauty, we're made to feel silly for not having the confidence to achieve what we want. Body image has been a big struggle in my life and I'm sure is just one story among millions, but every story should be told. The should be encouraged...and then ultimately dismissed as being counterproductive.
We're not born with body confidence, but we're the only ones standing in the way of attaining it. I learned a long time ago that the only person you need to impress is yourself, and that's something I strive to do every day. If you can look at your reflection in the mirror - before the long, fingered reach of the media has gotten to you - and feel the urge to give it a wink, then you're doing it right. Whatever 'it' may be. Call it confidence, call it acceptance - we all have our own term for it, but at the end of the day, it fills us with the same feeling.
I think the word "acceptance" has been a bit overused in the past few years, sometimes indicating that all flaws (whether they can be improved or not) should be accepted without question. That's not what this post is about, or any of my feelings towards confidence. I genuinely believe that confidence is derived from fine-tuning who you are to become who you want to be. There is nothing wrong with that and people who try to change themselves out of their own volition shouldn't be shamed, just like those who decide not to shouldn't be. It seems like we've lost the grey scale of respect and forgotten that not everyone has to be on one side or the other - we are all just human and can only control so much. Some people relish in this control and some prefer to let go.
In the past 5 years I've fluctuated in weight and it taught me one thing - that I still enjoy looking at my reflection. After having lost a significant amount of weight in my early 20's, gaining any back would have seemed like a nightmare. But now, heading toward my 26th birthday, I've finally accepted that we will always change, whether that be from our own choices or not.
What are your thoughts on body confidence?