Recently I’ve felt the overwhelming pangs of uselessness. They start in my chest then work their way outwards to every limb until I feel immobile, unable to leave the couch. This is not by any means me admitting that I regret leaving my full-time office job because I think that was the best thing for my mental health and future. However, now that I am in the transition period of finding a new job I actual click with, it’s made me feel somewhat stagnant. I’ll admit it’s been great having the time to work on my writing more, but there is a bit of a drive that doesn’t seem to be fulfilled with just doing that. So, for today’s post I decided to compile a list of tips to refer to if you too are in the transition from one job to another or are just simply going through this experience despite still working.
It’s important to fill up your time. I tend to fall into the habit of laziness if I don’t give myself something to do, whether that’s washing the dishes, doing some writing, or popping out to the store to buy something. Without that initial push it becomes harder and harder to stay motivated to get anything done, especially if you’re feeling somewhat defeated by your current situation.
Find what you love
An important factor of keeping busy is finding what you love and doing it. I often find myself wanting to write and just postponing it until I no longer have the energy. There’s no real reason for me to do this other than just feeling somewhat bored with the routine despite how much I enjoy doing it. Once you figure out what you’re passionate about, it’s important to stick to it even if you feel like it isn’t taking you anywhere because, someday, it might.
Know you aren’t alone
After a few weeks of my jobless journey, I’ve encountered many people who have also felt the same way I did about my previous job or have even gone through the same steps of leaving theirs. This has been incredibly eye opening and really showed me that I am not alone in the way I’ve been feeling. Most of the people I speak to are near my age and I think it’s important to acknowledge this trend among millennials. Of course, not everyone feels this way, but if you do then there are definitely many people out there like you.
Learn to enjoy the little things
A hard pill to swallow has been learning that the little things are just as important (if not more so) than the big things in life. For years I’ve been told that there are only a few things I should be doing with my life, time, and body. That those are what will make me an ideal person or someone others would strive to be. It’s difficult to get to know yourself when you believe you are comprised of only your career and the way you look. I had to take myself out of the headspace of only a few options for my life and really expand the possibilities to include all the minute options that I would have otherwise never considered. This shift in my mentality hasn’t been easy but it’s been vital in discovering myself, what I genuinely enjoy, and what I want my future to look like.
Have you ever felt useless? How deal with it?